"Better than
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Connect with a safe and vetted kink-friendly community!
The #ellexarmy on Discord is an incredible global community of Doms and subs from all experience levels - the perfect place to connect with like-minded kinksters in a safe and anonymous space!
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Submit questions directly to Ms. Elle for customized advice for your unique situation!
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Make friends with local kinksters and join vetted kink communities in your area!
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Chat with fellow Doms, subs, and switches going through a similar journey of self-discovery and growth!
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Access years of community questions and insights to accelerate your BDSM education on either side of the slash!
“I've been on FetLife before and find that it is full of Dom wannabes trying to get an easy fuck. It's lovely to find a safe, secure place like Ms. Elle’s community; it's so safe and respectful.” - A., United States
Why join Ms. Elle’s Discord community?
Fetlife is currently the most well-known option for BDSM community online, but it is far from perfect. In fact, many members of the #ellexarmy have had very traumatic experiences from other online communities like Fetlife, such as A. from the United States, “I almost left BDSM altogether when I became frustrated with other online educators and platforms like Fetlife. There was a lot of gatekeeping - telling people that if they didn’t do certain things, they weren’t “kinky enough,” etc., and my boundaries were also disrespected in online chats. Then, I came across Ms. Elle’s content and joined Her community, and it’s been amazing - my Sir and I have fallen even more in love with the Lifestyle!”
That’s why Ms. Elle’s Discord Community is completely different than any other online community. The #ellexarmy is a vibrant, real-time space where you can connect instantly with other Doms, subs, and switches who share your passions! As member G. from Scotland puts it, “Ms. Elle and Her community has been a huge salvation in my life over the past couple of years, and it's all down to what She has created, along with the amazing humans who have come into this community."
With 24/7 messaging, mobile notifications, and every member carefully vetted by Ms. Elle and Her incredible admin team, you can be assured of a friendly, safe, and like-minded community full of love and support, like what S. from the United States has found, “I genuinely love this community; the discussions I have are wonderful and insightful. Honestly, of all the Discord servers I have ever been a part of and promptly left, this is the only one I've stuck with. Thank you, Ms. Elle for putting in all of this work to create a community of caring people in the Lifestyle and showing everyone that there is so much love that can be fostered through it. This is truly one of the best communities I've ever found!”
What is a Discord server?
The #ellexarmy community powered by Discord, a secure application originally designed for gamers that influencers, creators, and educators have widely adopted to host text, voice, video chats, and more, replacing more traditional forums such as Facebook Groups to create amazing online communities!
How do I join the #ellexarmy on Discord?
The only way to join the #ellexarmy on Discord is through Patreon! For only $8 per month, you’ll get immediate access to a thriving, carefully vetted space full of people just as passionate about trauma-informed BDSM, Dom-sub relationships, and conscious kink as you are! Imagine real-time conversations, expert guidance, and topical channels all available wherever you go, from mobile to desktop! GO HERE to join Ms. Elle’s Patreon and step into a supportive, organized community where you can learn, love, laugh, and grow with as much privacy as you want! It’s everything you’ve been looking for in a BDSM community, and it’s just a click away!
How do I use Ms. Elle’s Discord server?
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Real-Time Connection: Instantly voice chat or message with other Doms, subs, and switches in a safe, authentic space where you are free to be yourself!
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Tailored Channels: Enjoy dedicated channels across dozens of BDSM topics like ‘#bdsm-bondage’ or ‘#bdsm-littlespace’ — each one organized for easy navigation so you can dive into exactly the topics you care about!
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Seamless Interaction: Post photos, ask questions, join discussions, and share insights in well-organized channels like #bdsm-questions, designed to keep conversations relevant and focused.
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Access Anywhere: Available on mobile, desktop, or web—wherever you are, the #ellexarmy community is at your fingertips.
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Complete Anonymity: Your privacy is our priority! Only your username is visible, so you can confidently explore, chat, and engage. Share as much or as little as you are comfortable with!
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Instant Approval: Once your Patreon payment is received, you’ll automatically receive an invite link to the #ellexarmy Discord server. No Discord account? Don’t worry; you can easily create one for free, and you’ll get step-by-step connection instructions with your invite link!
“I love Ms. Elle’s community because of the genuine love and acceptance I've received from everybody I have encountered here. I have never rushed to fit in, and I have always been allowed to settle in at my own pace. This community is filled with amazing, like-minded, kinky individuals who have all become family, and everyone has been truly amazing. There are so many great kinky channels to explore your kinks with the community in a safe, judgment-free, and respectful way. I have never felt judged when I have asked a question about a kink, whether it is my own or someone else's, because we are all here to help each other grow and become better, healthier people.”
- J., United Kingdom
